Working Woman

So, it is nearly exactly 2 years since I gave up ‘paid’ work for the Bank and I think I’ve done quite a lot in that two years….Chemo, Stem Cell Transplant, over £3k raised from a tabletop sale, over £30k raised from the Glitz and Glamour Ball, along with a few other bits of voluntary work to keep me ticking along.

But me being me, it just wasn’t quite enough once that all finished. I told people recently that I was applying for a role in the charity sector, a role with the Roald Dahl Marvellous Children’s Charity. I never once believed that I’d get it. It was a job I absolutely loved the sound of. It was well paid for charity work, and surely there would be ‘professional fundraisers’ who would know how to tick the boxes and have experience of all the things they were asking for. In fact, I nearly pulled out the week before as I thought that I would be wasting their time, and that they were too small and valuable a charity for me to do that (they help to support children who have rare or complex haematological or neurological conditions such as acquired brain damage, epilepsy, sickle cell). I started to get concerned about how I would fit in my family around the hours given that I still need to be around for holidays etc.

In the end and after much discussion with Nick, and much soul searching, we decided that it would still be great experience for me given that I have never applied for a role in the charity sector, and would allow me to see where the gaps were in my CV. So I went for the interview last week…..and only went and got it!! OMG! I was so shocked when they phoned to make the offer, and absolutely over the moon. I know people often say to me that I play my strengths down and should know better, but this time, I truly didn’t feel like I had given a good interview, and couldn’t see why such an amazing charity would take on me. But they are doing!

I am over the moon. They are being really flexible in considering my working hours so that I can fit work around the family – and that is pretty amazing in this day and age! It makes me so determined to do the job well for them. So for all of you out there who own businesses that aren’t flexible…..take this as a pointer….if you can be flexible in your attitude, you will probably get far more back from your employees.

The role is as a ‘Major Gifts Fundraiser’, i.e. helping to get funding and donations to support the families that the charity works with. It looks like I will work 4 days a week, with the occasional evening and weekend work. But even that work, looks like fun so it is just the most PERFECT sounding job and I am as high as a kite about it.

I know that our life will get more manic but I really feel already that I will be fulfilling my needs as well as my family’s needs and that is so important if I am going to be able to live with my condition. I hope that my myeloma won’t come back for many, many years and so I need to live life as if that is the case. Getting a job that I love doing (for the first time ever!) is the first step to this. So keep your fingers crossed for me that all goes well, that my medical doesn’t get in the way (it shouldn’t given that I am still in remission) and that April 15th sees me starting a role that will change not only my life, but I hope the life of those children living with conditions that they shouldn’t have to live with.

In the meantime, getting this job has made me realise that you can achieve anything that you want to. Also, a lovely lady who is also living with cancer, has inspired me through publishing her ‘List for Living’ or what some people less positively phrase as their ‘Bucket List’ . If I can get my ‘perfect job’ then surely I can do some of the other things that I would love to do before this cancer gets the better of me. And why wait until I relapse once or twice more, and have time constraints put on me… I am working on it now and will let you know when it’s done. And if anyone fancies helping me with suggestions or ways of achieving my ideas, I will happily take that help 🙂

About Deb Gascoyne

I am wife of one, mother of two (& a dog!) and a person in my own right😊. I have used my diagnosis of myeloma to allow me to focus on what I CAN achieve and not what I can't. My blog is a way of me spilling is for me more than you I'm afraid. But if it helps you along the way, that is an absolute bonus for me :-) Diagnosed in 2009 with smouldering myeloma, I started treatment in 2010 and had a SCT in 2011. I’ve was on maintenance until November 2018 but my figures went up so officially relapsed. I have been on dara since 2019 and had my second transplant in September 2020. Still on dara and keeping fingers crossed.
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