List for Living

So last time that I wrote I said that I was going to create a ‘Bucket List’, or perhaps more nicely put, a ‘List for Living’. So what is this list? And why do it?

Well, obviously it comes from the phrase ‘to kick the bucket’ and I think the general idea is that it is a list of things that you want to do before you die. This doesn’t have to be because you have a diagnosis hanging over you, but could just be because it is important not to take life for granted. None of us know exactly when our life as we know it, will be taken away from us. It may not be that you die, but could just be that something happens to stop you achieving those things that you thought you had forever to do. There was a great comedy-drama with Morgan FreemImagean andJack Nicholson film named ‘The Bucket List’ – they both had lung cancer and went off to fulfil their list of ‘wanna-do’s’. Perhaps not everyone’s cup of tea, but I loved it!

Anyway, I digress. George Washington Carver apparently said that ‘Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses’ – haha…..that is most definitely me! I tend to live my life saying why I can’t do things rather than why I can….so this List for Living is a chance for me to be more positive and to find the things that will really set me off! I suppose I am trying to embrace the idea that it is better to fail at doing something than never giving yourself a chance to succeed. And this list assumes that I will be around for 10-20 years (time to earn a fair bit of money to pay for most of them!)

I have put a couple on that I had wanted to do for ages, and that I have achieved over the past 12 months, namely organising a Charity Ball, and getting a job that I love doing. This list won’t ever necessarily be completed….according to the ‘guru’s’ of bucket lists, a good list never gets completed as you keep finding new things you want to achieve in life. And if any of you fancy giving me anymore ideas, I’m very happy to hear them. Here we go;

1. See my children go for their first day at Secondary School

2. Create scrapbooks for my two children (Harder for a non-creative like me than you think!)

3. Travel to Paris for lunch in a fabulous place.

4. Watch England play France or Ireland at Twickenham

5. Learn how to do photography well

6. Go to a spectacular Christmas Market in Germany or somewhere similar

7. Get a GREAT fundraising Job that I will love ( DONE – I hope! )

8. Organise a Fundraising Ball ( DONE )

9. Have a photo session with my whole family

10. Watch the New Years Eve fireworks in London with Nick and the children

11. Fly first class on a plane

12. Go paragliding

13. Fly on a trapeze

14. Go to the Harry Potter Studios

15. Have a dog

16. Go to the 2016 Olympics in Rio and watch the cycling

17. Have a go on a TV game show….deal or no deal?

18. Learn how to decorate cakes…..well!

19. See the Seven Wonders of the World

20. Go whale watching in New Zealand

21. Sleep in a yurt

22. Overcome my strange fear of heights (jumping off and walking across heights)

23. Learn how to do beautiful makeup (for more than one day!)

24. Eat at the Fat Duck

25. Go to Ascot

26. Learn to ski

27. Go on Safari in Africa

28. Ride in a Yellow Cab in New York

29. Rock climb a BIG cliff face

30. Release a book into the wild and know it has travelled the world.

31. Take my kids to a concert

32. Visit Schloss Leopoldskron from the Sound of Music

33. Reach 40 and have a big party

34. Reach 50 and have an even bigger party!

About Deb Gascoyne

I am wife of one, mother of two (& a dog!) and a person in my own right😊. I have used my diagnosis of myeloma to allow me to focus on what I CAN achieve and not what I can't. My blog is a way of me spilling is for me more than you I'm afraid. But if it helps you along the way, that is an absolute bonus for me :-) Diagnosed in 2009 with smouldering myeloma, I started treatment in 2010 and had a SCT in 2011. I’ve was on maintenance until November 2018 but my figures went up so officially relapsed. I have been on dara since 2019 and had my second transplant in September 2020. Still on dara and keeping fingers crossed.
This entry was posted in Uncategorized and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to List for Living

  1. Jet Black says:

    Yay! Well done Deb. And thanks for alerting me to Helen’s blog.
    I’m still writing my list, but like you, her blog inspired me to write one – such a difference between a “list for living” and a “bucket list”. And like you, I was inspired by her lunch in Paris item… I had to smile when I saw it also on your list. It’s the first thing on my list and I’m busy planning it already. It’s so nice to start off with a couple already ticked off… hope that ticking off continues merrily for you.


  2. Jet Black says:

    I don’t know if you’ve had a similar response, but after posting my list, it seems to be inspiring a number of my friends and blog followers. Isn’t it great to be part of something that spirals out and up? And so good to think of the word ‘viral’ without it being medical. LOL!


    • Deb Gascoyne says:

      I’m glad to hear that it does for others what it has done for me! I don’t have many followers as I’ve taken my blog off facebook now and have never told people about it as it was more for me….


What are you thinking?

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s