Christmas 2022

So it’s time for Nick to shine once more 🙂 Over to him……

The Gascoyne Christmas Newsletter 2022

Yet another year has passed at an incredible rate of knots and despite repeated attempts to try and dodge the task of writing the Christmas newsletter, I find myself again sitting at the keyboard under the watchful and judgemental gaze of both my frowning wife and my chisel faced daughter. Death, taxes, newsletter – think I have used that line before but after 14 instalments I am sure you can forgive me a little repetition.

2022 has been a year of a sort-of return to normal (whatever that means) and some challenges too, so I will get the serious stuff out of the way before the frivolity begins! After a few years of pain and restriction Dad finally had his hip replacement op in September and as expected has taken his rehabilitation very seriously. As a result, he is now walking with a slight limp but is otherwise on fine form and doing well. Unfortunately, this has been overshadowed by Mum’s admission to hospital with low kidney function. As I write she is still an in-patient enduring a battery of tests to find the issue and begin treatment, so let’s hope by the time you read this she is at home getting better – please cross your fingers and send lots of positive thoughts and love. We love you Mum, get better soon.

Ok, now on to slightly lighter stuff – read this with a hint of irreverence and sarcasm, you know, my usual tone!

Sam is now well into his first year of A-Levels at King Edwards College – studying maths, further maths, economics and physics. We await his first report and first consultation evening with his teachers this month and he has just started to manage our expectations – here are a few of my favourite quotes:

“I think economics will be ok – I am quite easily distracted so he might mention that”

“In Physics he only asked me to leave the room once”

“Maths is going quite well”

I may need a whisky to for these chats to numb the pain!

On a separate topic I know many of you will be keen on the next update of XBOXitis. Previous attempts to separate beloved son from the machine have been largely unsuccessful, even the ‘iPhone as methadone’ approach had only managed to add a second addiction on top of the first and allowed him to be on a screen whilst visiting the bog – he need never be apart from his digital crack. Then one day, when we felt all hope was lost, he stumbled across his own cure. This cure is called Juliette and it appears that she is able to completely relieve the lad of his desire to be driving a screen and we are very happy that she has this superpower. Sam is delighted with this arrangement and clearly loves being in her company – it is great to see him smile so often.

Sticking with the Boy, he is already thinking about life after college and has his sights set on the glamourous career of Quantity Surveying. In an uncharacteristic bout of organisation, insight and effort, Sam organised a week’s work-experience at a company in Gloucester where he stayed solo in an AirBnB and worked 5 days shadowing a QS, and in modern street parlance, he smashed it. The feedback from the company was incredibly positive and they offered him an apprenticeship if he wants it – absolutely fantastic, and we are very proud of him. Feedback from the Air BnB was less glowing and the advice not to eat sausage and mash in bed was an unusual addition.

Now let us advance to the girl child who is now 18, in her final year at college, driving everywhere she can, and working incredibly hard to ensure a solid cash flow for her Australian travel plans.

Passing her driving test was a momentous achievement and a real emotional (and financial) rollercoaster for all of us! I could be tempted to retrain as a driving instructor but I am not sure I would know what to do with all the extra cash – only train drivers earn more if Elon Musks new toy is to be believed. Rebecca showed incredible tenacity in her approach and also paid for a number of her own lessons as she was utterly committed to passing, and failing the first test in August didn’t dampen her spirits too much. Even when the next test date was in 2023 she didn’t panic and just kept revisiting the website looking for cancellations which lead to a successful September second test. Well done that girl.

Her 18th birthday was loads of fun and she had 2 parties to celebrate becoming an adult (surely you’re not old enough to have an adult daughter Nick, I hear you yell). One with friends where Deb and I were ordered to vacate the family home and one with family where we were ordered to stay in the home and fill it with food and drink. We were happy to do both. Thanks to everyone who came and joined in the celebrations.

And for next year it would seem that the Aussies are calling and Rebecca is planning a long trip to see her cousins and their families down under. She has been thinking about this trip for ages and is squirreling away the funds necessary to make this a reality – working significant hours at a restaurant, a café and a golf club. Her work ethic is mighty impressive (yes – she gets it from her Mum) and she is reliable, hard working and willing to drop what she is doing to go in if they need her at short notice. Proper job.

We are very proud of them both and this period in their lives is so exciting – the world awaits them both (quickly I hope!)

Now we will move to my better half – the Morcombe to my wise, the Cannon to my Ball (a threat she uses quite regularly), the Kwarteng to my Truss – the brave and Inspirational Mrs G. Deb has had the busiest of busy years. She has worked for over a year at Brain Tumour Research and goes from strength to strength organising an Isle of Wight Randonnée, Walks of Hope, skydiving events and much more. She manages to achieve more in a 4 day week than I do in a fortnight – some things never change! Deb continues to focus on road cycling with the Stourbug group and after nearly 2 years of waiting she and niece Felicity, completed the London to Paris event raising oodles more cash and smashing her #50b450. The L2P was such an achievement as 125 cyclists completed 300 miles in 4 days and finished with a big party in Paris where the celebrated with a big end of ride party – Deb enjoyed this event more that the ride I think, and one of my favourite moments was finding her asleep in our hotel shower around 4 in the AM – classy bird.

And for me the pattern was set some while ago – family, work, house and whisky – makes me a happy boy (and reduces the size of this newsletter – woohoo)

And after a strange and restrictive few years, we were able to travel again – in August all 4 of us went to Cape Verde for a couple weeks and just chilled in the sun. Deb and I would have the morning together and the kids would appear early afternoon and Sam in particular lived a mainly nocturnal existence. We had a great time and came home feeling relaxed and rested – feelings that lasted about 12 hours!

Later in the year Deb and I spent a few days in Seville – we ate and drank and walked and talked and then ate and drank some more. Fabulous.

And on that note the blessed curtain comes down on this year’s review and we wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a fun, rewarding and exciting 2023……

With much love from us all

Nick, Deb, Rebecca, Sam & Marley (no mention of him this year….)


About Deb Gascoyne

I am wife of one, mother of two (& a dog!) and a person in my own right😊. I have used my diagnosis of myeloma to allow me to focus on what I CAN achieve and not what I can't. My blog is a way of me spilling is for me more than you I'm afraid. But if it helps you along the way, that is an absolute bonus for me :-) Diagnosed in 2009 with smouldering myeloma, I started treatment in 2010 and had a SCT in 2011. I’ve was on maintenance until November 2018 but my figures went up so officially relapsed. I have been on dara since 2019 and had my second transplant in September 2020. Still on dara and keeping fingers crossed.
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