So I said that I was going to create a ‘Bucket List’, or perhaps more nicely put, a ‘List for Living’. So what is this list? And why do it?
Well, obviously it comes from the phrase ‘to kick the bucket’ and I think the general idea is that it is a list of things that you want to do before you die. This doesn’t have to be because you have a diagnosis hanging over you, but could just be because it is important not to take life for granted. None of us know exactly when our life as we know it, will be taken away from us. It may not be that you die, but could just be that something happens to stop you achieving those things that you thought you had forever to do. There was a great comedy-drama with Morgan Freeman andJack Nicholson film named ‘The Bucket List’ – they both had lung cancer and went off to fulfil their list of ‘wanna-do’s’. Perhaps not everyone’s cup of tea, but I loved it!
Anyway, I digress. George Washington Carver apparently said that ‘Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses’ – haha…..that is most definitely me! I tend to live my life saying why I can’t do things rather than why I can….so this List for Living is a chance for me to be more positive and to find the things that will really set me off! I suppose I am trying to embrace the idea that it is better to fail at doing something than never giving yourself a chance to succeed. And this list assumes that I will be around for 10-20 years (time to earn a fair bit of money to pay for most of them!)
I have put a couple on that I achieved in my first few years post diagnosis, namely organising a Charity Ball, and getting a job that I love doing. This list won’t ever necessarily be completed….according to the ‘guru’s’ of bucket lists, a good list never gets completed as you keep finding new things you want to achieve in life. And if any of you fancy giving me anymore ideas, I’m very happy to hear them. If I’m honest, this hasn’t really been my priority over the years as I’ve needed to just focus on raising my family, but maybe a few of them will get done over the years.
Here we go;
1. See my children go for their first day at Secondary School – DONE! I think I might add a new one of getting to see them finish secondary school!
2. Create scrapbooks for my two children (Harder for a non-creative like me than you think!) Hmmmm, started but certainly nowhere near finished!
3. Travel to Paris for lunch in a fabulous place.
4. Watch England play France or Ireland at Twickenham
5. Learn how to do photography well
6. Go to a spectacular Christmas Market in Germany or somewhere similar
7. Get a GREAT fundraising Job that I will love ( DONE – I hope! )
8. Organise a Fundraising Ball ( DONE )
9. Have a photo session with my whole family
10. Watch the New Years Eve fireworks in London with Nick and the children – DONE. we went one better than this (in my opinion!) and got to do this in Sydney instead in 2016
11. Fly first class on a plane
12. Go paragliding
13. Fly on a trapeze
14. Go to the Harry Potter Studios – (DONE – massive thank you to Paul for providing a family ticket – an amazing experience that we will all remember for years)
15. Have a dog – DONE So happy that two years after moving to the Midlands we introduced Marley into our family. As a cockapoo he is mad as a box of frogs but I hope he’ll look after me during my second transplant.
16. Go to Wimbledon on one of the major courts!
17. Have a go on a TV game show….deal or no deal?
18. Learn how to decorate cakes…..well! Started on cupcakes & also did our Christmas cake this year (2019) 😂
19. See one of the Seven Wonders of the World
20. Go whale watching in New Zealand
21. Sleep in a yurt – DONE! Our first year in the Midlands we were invited to go ”mums and sons’ camping. Not quite the glamorous idea I’d had in mind but hey ho!
22. Overcome my strange fear of heights (jumping off and walking across heights)
23. Learn how to do beautiful makeup (for more than one day!)
24. Eat at the Fat Duck
25. Go to Ascot (DONE!)
26. Learn to ski – I’ve started this one!
27. Go on Safari in Africa
28. Ride in a Yellow Cab in New York
29. Rock climb a BIG cliff face
30. Release a book into the wild and know it has travelled the world.
31. Take my kids to a concert (1/2 Done – I took Rebecca to see Little Mix-that’s love for you! Still to take Sam somewhere)
32. Visit Schloss Leopoldskron from the Sound of Music
33. Reach 40 and have a big party (DONE – fab party on the 24th Jan 2015)
34. Reach 50 and have an even bigger party!
35. Learn to change a tyre.
36. Drive an open top sports car for a day on a beautiful sunny day
37. Have an evening out drinking fine champagne! (DONE- thanks to Nickolls & Perks, Stourbridge)
38. Go camping with a big group of friends and family
39. Cook a full Indian meal (well!)
40. Understand how social media works properly so that I can do private work for small businesses DONE – I now own my own small social media business – Gascoyne Solutions.